Do You Know Your Child’s Personality And Behaviour?

I love spending time with my twin nephews. They say the funniest and rudest things without even realizing it. Where Himank loves to talk, Maulik is a man of few words. Himank likes to take the lead whereas I can see a visionary in Maulik. It is sometimes hard to believe that these two boys are birthed by the same mother.

As these twins have different personalities, my sister has a tough time sticking to one parenting style. Is it possible that a child’s personality and parenting style go hand in hand? How is it possible to have two distinct personalities?

A child is born with a unique set of personality traits. These personality traits are responsible for his behaviour and future success. For example, you know that a child is inclined towards debates by the way he wants to counter to the points during a discussion. If a parent or a teacher does not realise that being inquisitive is part of his personality, it can be detrimental to one’s growth. Constant behaviour correct and unnecessary punishment can cause withdrawal and rejection. It is important to recognize the personality type to understand them better and to create a conducive environment. 

Components of Personality

According to a study done by renowned researchers Alexander Thomas and Stella Chess, a child’s personality is made up of two components.

  • Temperament

  • Character

A child’s temperament is predetermined at birth whereas a child’s character

takes shape through experience and influence of the environment. There are 9 factors that influence a child’s temperament.

  • Level of physical energy

Some kids are inclined towards doing the physical activity all the time while some are content with watching the world go by.

  • Regularity of actions

Some kids eat, sleep, or go to the loo at the same time while some can’t be bothered by routines. Humans come with their inbuilt clocks; some like to follow while others tend to ignore.

  • Initial Reaction to Situations

This trait shows a child’s initial reaction to new situations. Does your child hide behind you or approaches new people with confidence?

  • Adaptability to Environment

This trait has more to do with how a child reacts during the phase after his initial reaction.

This trait relates to a child’s ability to adapt to a new environment or routine. How does your child react when you change his routine?

  • Intensity of emotions

The intensity of emotions tells a lot about a child’s personality. The intensity of emotions can be towards negative (sadness, rage, frustration, etc) or positive (excitement, happiness, etc) thought or action. Do your child’s emotions go from 0 to 10 in a microsecond or does he take time to react to situations?

  • Overall Mood

The general demeanour of the child can be categorised into positive and negative outlook towards life. It is something similar to whether your child sees the glass half full or half empty.

  • Focus on Activities

External distractions can play a crucial role in a child’s ability to focus on an activity. Is your child able to complete a puzzle before they move to the next task or they don’t move until it is finished?

  • Persistence

A child’s persistence level can be gauged by the way he approaches a task. A persistent child will not abandon a task when it gets challenging.

  • Sensory Threshold

Some kids are very perceptive to lights, textures, and smells. They also tend to pick up moods of people around them. Such children have a low sensory threshold. Kids who tend to ignore these stimuli have a high sensory threshold.  

These 9 personality traits can range between high and low and this setting is fixed since birth. Some kids who are high on intensity level which means that they would react to situations passionately. Some kinds of low-intensity level would not care about the issues.

These personality traits are ever changing. Their personalities take shape as they grow and experience various situations. The unique situations they encounter shape their behaviour and attitude. Based on research done by Carl Jung, further elaborated and expanded by Katherine Briggs and Isabel Myers, there are 4 types of personalities for children aged 7-12.

  1. Sensors
  2. Feelers
  3. Institution
  4. Thinkers 

Also Read: Ways To Get Your Child To Care About Others

These personalities will further have 2 levels, i.e high and low level.


Extraverted Sensing (High)Children who are performers and doers fit best in this category.

Introverted Sensing  (Low)  –  Children who are nurturers or duty fulfillers belong to this category. 


Extraverted Thinkers (High)These children can be future executives and guardians.

Introverted Thinkers (Low)These children can be future mechanics and thinkers.


Extraverted Intuition (High)These children can be the future inspirers and visionaries.

Introverted Intuition (Low)These children can be good protectors or scientists.


Extraverted Feelers (High) –  Givers or caregivers have this personality trait.

Introverted Feelers (Low) –  Idealists and artists have this personality trait. 

Each child is unique and comes with a predetermined personality trait. Understanding your child’s personality type will help you communicate and connect with your child better. There is no right or wrong level of a personality trait. High or Low level of a personality trait is what makes your child so unique. If your child is between 7-12, take the test to find out your child’s personality type.

Also Read5 ways to understand teenagers better


Recomended Blogs


5 Diwali Crafts For Kids

It’s time for some festivities! Diwali is the time for traditions, celebrations, and togetherness. A


Avi Danoa

7 months ago


Ganapathi Slokas for kids this Ganesh Chaturthi

Ganesh Chaturthi, favorite festival for most people is right around the corner. Unfortunately, just li



10 months ago


Where Do You Share Your Kid’s Achievements & Why That Matters?

Kids are always eager to tell you about their accomplishments and achievements with a genuine desire f



1 year ago

Leave a Reply

You must be logged in to post a comment.